Simple Stress Free Living
by Nikki Willhite
Life is complicated for today's modern women.
There is just too much to do, and not enough time or energy to do it.
Turn the clock back 25 years, and the situation for
women was quite different. Although not as many women worked, women were
expected to "do it all."
I remember my life back in those days. I remember sewing clothing for my family,
knitting, crocheting, cross stitch, baking bread, gardening, canning, freezing,
and dehydrating food, all the while nurturing my children, helping with
homework, paying bills, driving, cleaning, and endless volunteer work.
And yet....today, be it possible, life has gotten
The problem is that now, when working outside the
home has been added to the equation for many of us, it is difficult to let go of
the guilt associated with not doing all of the things that for so many years
were expected of us.
Personally, many times I have felt that I was
running down a road to a destination I didn't even want to reach.
If you are a 40 plus women, and you are experiencing
these type of feelings, it is time to sit down and have a talk with yourself.
Times have seriously changed. Everyone is seriously
busy. A lot of people in the work force are now doing the work of 3 people.
Even if you are one of the lucky ones who still have
a comfortable work environment, you may be feeling the stress of a loved one who
is in this situation.
We have now arrived at the point where
self-protection is necessary for our health, and it begins with us.
There are some things we can't change. Our work
load, the technologically advancing world, and the high cost of living may be
with us for many years.
Accept the fact that the world has
changed and it is okay for you to change also. It is okay to "let go" of the
expectations of the past.
You must set new priorities. As far as your time,
work will be your first priority. As far as your life, YOU are your first
priority. You must make time for yourself and the things you enjoy, or you are
not going to enjoy life, and you may get sick. And that is not going to help
Once you have accepted that you can change, you have
an empty slate. It is time to decide what you want to do with the time not spent
Don't waste any time feeling badly about things you
can no longer do. They sell ready-made bread in the store, you can pick up soft
chenille throws, and last time I looked, Costco sells canned food by the case.
STOP and think about what you REALLY want to do.
Your best friend may keep beautiful scrapbooks of
her family's activities, but if that is not what you want to do, just say "no",
and put your pictures in a photo box.
No one can have it all, and no one can do it all.
Let everything that is not essential go.
Find those one or two things that you really enjoy
doing, and make time for them.
We may not be able to change the world, but we can
change ourselves. Let go of any guilt for things you no longer have time to do.
Focus on what brings you joy, and don't feel guilty about it.
This is about as close as many of us can come to
living the "imple Life."Should you find yourself slipping in your thought
patterns, just remember this- a messy house won't kill you. Stress will.
About the Author: Nikki Willhite,
mother of 3 and an interior design graduate, has been writing and publishing
articles on the topic of
frugal living for over a
decade. Visit her at
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